SGL: Physical Arrangements for a Home Group

Home group is an essential part of the transitions to helping grow people toward spiritual parenting. They can meet just about anywhere, like a home, or church, or park, however there are many situations in which distractions can hinder openness and spiritual growth. There are more possibilities for groups to meet than most people might think, but there are some guidelines that will prevent growth. Consider these five principles: Continue reading


SGL: What is the Purpose of the Ice Breaker?

Our mission is to make disciples, which begins by connecting with people. There are a variety of ways to connect with people. Depending on the previous relationships, people can adjust to just about anything, however, you never know when you will have new people or your regular people may have new circumstances that throw them off kilter in life. Most people come into a group setting with masks on and they are only ready to share at the superficial level, “Hi, how are you?” “Me? I’m fine, how are you?” In order to provide an environment for intentional discipleship, ice breakers “melt the ice”! Continue reading

SGL: Home Group Leader Meeting April 5, 2014

It seems the Home Group Leader updates are a highlight of the month. I get the privilege of guiding discussions around the discipleship of Christ-followers. This update was no exception.

We briefly reviewed three things from Week Seven from the Real Life Training manual, which was discussed at the last quarterly training meeting. We reviewed the four words: Share, Connect, Minister and Disciple and which spiritual stage of growth each one was connected. Then we matched up the three levels of commitment using Matthew 4:19. Continue reading

SGL: Considerations for Recruiting Leaders in your Home Group

A home group leader who likes to lead may do everything himself or with the help of his wife in his home. But if he does not recruit and disciple new leaders, it may reveal a selfish desire to maintain being the center of attention. The purpose of home groups is to multiply and hence recruit other leaders, which requires discipling participants to greater roles and opportunities of responsibility. Consider the following principles as you consider the potential of each person in yours:

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SGL: How do you know when your home group is healthy?

The purpose of home groups is to multiply, and that is a sign of good health. However, it can be deceptive what good health is. For example, one group may enjoy getting together, because they love to study “last day events.” Or another group may like to gather, because their relationships are so strong. Yet, in both of these incidents, while there might be a growth in head knowledge or social activities, there is very little discipleship and no multiplication. In both cases the home groups are not healthy, because they are not multiplying through discipleship. So what makes a healthy home group?

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SGL: Coaching Lessons Learned February, 2014

Leaders are life-long learners. They are always pursuing the high ground of truth and seeking to apply wisdom, which is why I post the monthly summaries of our update meetings. This month, I asked the questions:

  • What are you thinking as you approach home group?
  • What are you doing when you are in home group?

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SGL: What attitude does the Leader express toward his home group?

Everything is built on leadership. Jesus is the ultimate leader, who knew what He was doing and followed through with it regardless of the cost or depth of the valley. A home group leader doesn’t have to be as good of leader as Jesus, but there are several characteristics that will help every leader of home groups. Let me highlight five. Continue reading

SGL: If They Are Not Talking, You Don’t Know What They are Thinking!

I love watching my grandchildren grow through physical, mental, relational and emotional stages of growth. They are each growing through them differently, but there are generalities that are fun to watch. I also love to hear them talk. I’m focused when I get to see them and listen closely, because I know great things are going on inside of their brains to make neuron connections and grow! The same things are true for watching people grow spiritually. Continue reading

SGL: Facilitating Questions

There are many ways to communicate information. These include: 1) lecture, 2)monologue with an opportunity for questions, 3) dialogue and 4) dialogue with practical implementation in a variety of forms. Home groups use a method of facilitating questions that is one of the best ways to help people learn. How is this a good method for this setting? Because you do not know what groups members are understand about a subject matter, unless they are talking about it or acting on it. Continue reading

SGL: Understanding the Stages of Spiritual Growth

Home groups are designed to help people grow spiritually. The discipleship process takes a person from the spiritual infant stage to becoming a spiritual parent. As a spiritual parent the process begins again. The following is a short synopsis of the stages of growth. Every home group leader needs to be thoroughly clear on these stages. Continue reading