The below suggested answers to the Message Based Discussion Questions are provided for the message presented on February 9, 2014. The suggested answers are designed to stimulate thinking, not restrict it.
1) If you take a text out of the context, you have a pretext (an excuse).
2) Pauline letters are prescriptive.
3) You interpret out of the text, not read into the text.
1) Disciple men to worship in dependence on Jesus 2:8 CHIP
2) Disciple women to approach Jesus properly 2:9-10
3) Disciple women to worship Jesus in submissive silence 2:11
4) Disciple women to worship Jesus in divine order 2:12-15
As men and women worship Jesus,
they will emphasize their roles over their equality!
- Men and women need each other in the spiritual warfare of life. Accept and pursue God’s roles for the sake of the kingdom.
- Men continue to have the role of provision and protection by the sweat of the brow and women have the role of raising children to godliness. It takes everyone to turn 80% of children leaving into 80% of children leading.
- Men and women are equal, but have different roles. How do you help women raise children and help teach women to follow Titus 2:4-5? Men, how do you help the church ensure that everyone understands their roles?
- The roles that women serve in are essential to the Body of Christ.
Biblical Femininity: At the heart of mature femininity is a freeing disposition to affirm, receive and nurture strength and leadership from worthy men in ways appropriate to a woman’s differing relationships. Recovering Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, (p. 46).
Message Based Discussion Questions
1) Have you ever served in a position of authority or under authority? What did you like about it or dislike?
- Pastorate, military, family.
- I like to be able to lead and trust God in that leadership. I didn’t like all the responsibility for decisions when there seemed to be equal evidence for going both ways on a decision.
2) Do you think there is contention when God’s order and authority is rejected? _yes_ What are examples of what happens when God’s order and authority is rejected? (Consider these Gen. 4:7-8; 1 Sam. 15:18-23; Matt. 7:21-23; Acts 5:1-5)
- Gen. 4:7-8 Cain rejected God’s Words to control his sin nature and he slew Abel
- 1 Sam. 15:18-23 Saul disobeyed God’s Word to destroy Agag and the Amalekites and God called his partial obedience rebellion
- Matt. 7:21-23 Many who called Jesus Lord, and did great things, never had a relationship with Him
- Acts 5:1-5 Ananias kept back part of the proceeds, but said he gave it all to the church. In that he lied to God the Holy Spirit and he died.
- In each of the cases there was contention with God and horrible consequences.
3) What is the role that Deborah served in Judges 4: 1-16? _prophetess__ How did she have authority over Barak? What was the consequence to Barak for the role Deborah served? How does this make sense with 1 Tim. 2:11-15?
- Deborah was a very wise woman to whom many went for counsel (Jdg 4:4-5)
- She did not have authority over Barak, because she understood her role as a woman and sought to affirm Barak’s authority (Jdg 4:6-7). In this case, she reminded Barak of God’s order that had already been given to him. Barak said she needed to go with him for him to obey the Lord.
- The consequence to Barak was that he lost out on the glory that he could have received. (Jdg 4:9)
4) How important is raising children to godliness? _very__ Whose responsibility is it (cf. Eph. 6:4)? If parents are having trouble raising their children, what should they do? (Consider 1 Cor. 12:19-25; 2 Tim. 2:24-26; 3:1-7)
- It is directly the father’s responsibility
- 1 Cor. 12:19-25 everyone in the church body ought to be in support and reinforce what the parents are discipling into their children
- 2 Tim. 2:24-26 children may be ensnared by the devil and not willing to cooperate. Parents and other concerned members need to be willing to carefront the child in opposition if perhaps the Lord would allow repentance
- 2 Tim. 3:1-7 Recognize children are part of society and that in the latter days people will be lovers of self and parents should not be hesitant to seek help from other members of the church to help disciple their children if the children fail to respond.
Making Application from the Message to Life:
5) How do you help women who struggle with a man’s authority?
- Listen to her in order to understand
- Ask her about her background and what kind of authority she was raised in
- Ask what she has been taught about authority
- Ensure she knows she does not need to be under physical, mental or emotional abuse, but also help her to see Gen. 16:9
- Help her work through the situation, by giving her time to think, reflect and decide what to do. Let her make the decision of what to do, unless the abuse is obvious and you need to protect her safety
- Disciple her to see God’s role and order in the Trinity
6) How do you help men exercise godly authority?
- Help them understand John 5:19,30
- Help them understand the One who was given all authority, was willing to die to His own desires for us Luke 22:42
- Help them understand authority is given for the sake of the kingdom function, not personal ease or opportunity Matt 25:24-28
- Help them understand that authority is given in order to serve for the betterment of others Mark 10:45
- Help them understand they need to train others to carry on the mission 2 Tim. 2:2; Matt. 28:19-20
7) How do you raise men to lead as Jesus led and stirred up His disciples to turn over their world?
- Follow the Grace vision: Connect, Equip and Multiply
- Follow the discipleship model of Grace: Biblical foundation; relational environment; intentional discipleship; reproducible process
- Put men into a position of leadership as soon as possible, with a good safety net and accountability
- Encourage, exhort and edify
- Help men to act like men and lead 1 Cor. 16:13