Q & A: Strategy of Grace – Raising Spiritual Parents: Matthew 28:19-20

These are suggested answers to the Message Based Discussion Questions from the message presented on September 1, 2013.  The purpose of this is to stimulate discussion, not to provide the only answers.  Rely upon your own study and teaching of the Holy Spirit.  First, the message outline is provided, followed by the questions and answers.           

What is God’s solution to raising spiritual parents? Growing up spiritually?

1)      Pursue the Lord’s pattern in raising disciples Matt 4:18-22

2)      Pursue the Lord’s exhortation to raise spiritual children 1 Thes. 2:7-8, 10-12; 3:2; Heb. 5:12-14; Matt. 6:30; 8:26; 14:31; 16:28; 19:14; 28:18-30; Mar. 6:7

What is the wisest approach to help 80% of the congregation become spiritual parents (disciple-makers)?   Some possibilities:

  • Disciple through worship services to become spiritual parents
  • Disciple through Fellowship Groups
  • Disciple through small groups, where multiple people get opportunities to lead the group in different capacities.

What has to be true for a legitimate home group? It must have:

  • Biblical Foundation – Matt. 7:24-27; 2 Tim. 3:16-17
  • Relational Environment –1 Cor. 12:25
  • Intentional Discipleship – Eph. 4:11-13
  • Reproducible Process – Matt. 28:19-20

The Lord Jesus is our example and

He exhorted us to become spiritual parents.


  • Jesus is looking for followers not fans.
  • Jesus loves you where you are, but where you are Jesus wants you to keep growing.
  • Life is about Jesus Christ and His message to disciple others, i.e. raise spiritual parents.

Message Based Discussion Questions

1)      How were you or were you taught to be an adult who was ready to raise children?

  • I was given chores as a boy to learn faithfulness and responsibility, like making my bed, emptying the waste baskets, burning the incinerator, clipping the grass, cleaning my room.
  • I was later given increased responsibilities of dishwashing, which was shared with my two siblings: one washed, one dried and one cleared the table.
  • I was responsible later for cutting the grass, putting out the dock, raking the beach, the leaves, doing gardening and shoveling the walk, driveway and cleaning off the roof.
  • I was held accountable for grades on my report card and maintaining my own car in high school: purchase, upkeep and maintenance.
  • I was responsible to earn money through cutting grass, cleaning out gutters, putting out and taking in docks, shoveling snow and then moving up to employment opportunities in high school.

Digging Deeper:

2)      In Deuteronomy 6:6, where is the Word supposed to be solidified? _the heart_.  What will that look like according to the larger context of Deut. 6:1-9?

  • I learn I need the Word by understanding the fear of the Lord 6:2
  • I learn I need to learn the Word, so I can pass it on to grandchildren 6:2
  • I learn I need to know it well, so I will be careful to observe it. 6:2
  • I learn there are blessings of longer life through obedience 6:2
  • SO, I need to study well the Word 6:6
  • I need to disciple my children, grandchildren and great grandchildren at every opportunity according to the context of the occasion 6:7
  • I must be proactive, not passive in discipling using dinner time, sitting time, going to bed time and getting up time for the Lord’s sake 6:7
  • God’s Word must be bound to my hand, in that everything I do is filtered through God’s Word and everything I see must be guarded by God’s Word  6:8
  • God’s Word must influence everything I do in my home and when I leave my home 6:9

3)      How many times was Peter called to follow by Jesus?  __at least twice_ (compare John 1:35-42 with Matt. 4:18-20).  What do you suppose was going through Peter’s mind?

  • Excitement that Jesus must be the Messiah!
  • Discouragement and he was not sure if he could trust Jesus
  • I need to be practical and keep fishing, because it is all I know
  • Okay, I’m going to follow you, because you keep coming back!

4)      What are the three challenges Jesus makes in Luke 9:57-62?

  • _No hotel reservations_ ; _Leave the sp. Dead to bury their own, there is a living message to proclaim_;  __don’t look back to think there is something yet there__

What are examples of challenges today that you face in considering the invitation by Jesus (Luke 9:57-62)?

  • I may not have money to go out to eat, whenever
  • I may not have money to have cable and entertainment
  • I may not have money to buy new clothes, whenever
  • I may not know if I’ll have provisions
  • I may doubt whether He will provide.
  • I may wonder if I’m missing out on what other people are doing on earth
  • I may think I’m missing the glitter and gleam of the world.
  • I may confuse human relationship importance with kingdom priorities

How do these challenges hinder disciples from being fully committed to follow Jesus?

  • They cause us to be more cautious
  • They cause disciples to trust what they cannot see and doubt gets in the way so they won’t trust
  • If they can’t see the earthly fruit, they may think they are not doing the right thing
  • They prevent disciples from depending on the Lord
  • They prevent disciples from seeing His miracles

Application of the message to life:

5)      Do you experience the miracle and joy of taking responsibility for discipling others in Jesus?  How is that more fulfilling than regular human responsibilities?

  • There is no greater joy than sharing Jesus’ Word with others 3 John 1:4
  • The joy is in watching some respond to that Word 1 Thes. 2:19-20
  • Human responsibilities are mundane and temporal Matt. 6:19-21
  • Human responsibilities are short lived and unsatisfying Ecc. 2

6)      According to the statistics mentioned in the message, what will happen if we do not disciple others to disciple people? What specific steps would you encourage others to take?

  • The church will continue to erode in number and importance.
  • There will be some mega-churches, but they will not change the nation
  • There will not be a multiplication of spiritual parents.
  • People will continue to be spoon fed and not grow up spiritually
  • Change your priorities to heaven
  • Change your allegiance to Jesus
  • Change your time commitment to studying God’s Word

7)      What are three things you might have to do or rearrange in your life to disciple other people?

  • Throw out the hobby that is not eternal and doesn’t bless others
  • Be consistent in learning God’s Word in discipleship
  • Recruit two people to disciple

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