Valentine’s Day is one day every guy needs to remember. It’s not that he needs to join the lavish expenditures as the world promotes, but the simple, focused thoughtfulness that says, “I love you.” And do it in the language your gal can understand. Don’t let others tell you what you have to do or what is considered satisfactory.1
The Legend of St. Valentine
There are many questions regarding the exact history of Valentine’s Day, however, there are certain aspects that make the day a special day for those who care deeply for others. Historically, there were three men that may have been the “Valentine.” One was a priest in Rome, another a bishop in Terni and the third, who met his end in Africa. All three were martyred on February 14 on different years. Most hold to the first mentioned priest Valentine. In 270 A.D., he defied the order of emperor Claudius II, who declared single soldiers were not allowed to have wives or families, so that they would be more willing to die for the emperor. Valentine continued to secretly marry soldiers.
Legend carries the love story that when Valentine (the priest) was apprehended and ordered executed, he fell in love with the jailors daughter. Just before his execution, he sent her a note that ended, “from your Valentine.” His letter was not focused on physical love (eros), but on Christian love (agape). Hence, the Valentine greeting should carry the concept of dying to self for the sake of the one you love.
Valentine’s Day: A Day of Romance
During the Middle Ages, many in France and England believed that February 14 was the beginning of the birds’ mating season. This added to the idea that Valentine’s Day should be a day for romance.
However, you see it, remember those whom you love with a simple card, a call or a loving greeting, so that they do not feel left out. Simple, so that they do not grow in their expectations of an opulent gift and a remembrance, because it will remind you to die for those whom you love, just as Jesus died for you.
1You should not have to sense another person, although with good intentions, is trying to impose on you some legalistic standard of love. Let them do what they want to do and you express it in your own way.